The Danish language contains many words for concepts that involve togetherness, sharing, and community. It contains more words around these topics than the English language does—which is a remarkable feat considering the English dictionary has 470,000 words compared to the Danish dictionary’s 200,000. I certainly see this togetherness reflected in the people; Denmark is a country that values teamwork and community to its very core.
And then there is fællesspisning. Fællesspisning has had a bit of a comeback in the past five years or so. It is is not a new or particularly original concept. Probably the most common example of it in Denmark are the community centres (also a much better word in Danish: “forsamlingshus”) in smaller towns and villages, where locals gather to eat, drink and play bingo. Today, though, there aren’t many of them left in the big cities, leaving a gaping hole to be filled and a growing demand for places like this.
Remember being a kid and coming home for dinner in the evening? Everyone would eat at the same time, you’d eat the same thing, and you’d probably have to help by bringing it to the table or doing the dishes afterwards. Imagine that, just on a greater scale, with your friends and/or people you’ve never met before.
Lennart and Sus Lajboschitz, the founders of Absalon—one of Copenhagen’s most well-known fællesspisning spots—put this demand down to the fact that we live in more isolated circumstances than ever before. The internet and constant connection has meant we’ve lost the places in our neighbourhood where we connect with our community and our neighbours, especially in big cities. People are living alone, not talking to each in the supermarket queue, and not looking each other in the eye while walking down the street. Fællesspisning seems the perfect antidote to that.
For fællesspisning to work, it relies on the participation and openness of everyone attending, because a large part of it is the conversations and dynamics that are created around the table. At most of the dinners I've attended, we’ve collected our own plates, food, and cutlery, shared everything around the table “family style” and cleaned up afterwards. Some even involve cooking too. Sharing these tasks provides an easy way to strike up conversations with others.
It’s cheap too, usually costing something between 20 and 100 kr. for a meal, depending on where you go. This is possible because there is no need for waiters, the food is made en masse, served at the same time, and shared by the participants. But, interestingly, the price isn’t the reason why most people attend. It’s the chance to engage with others that seems to be the main attraction.
At Absalon, food is just one of the many ways in which people are encouraged to interact. Aside from fællesspisning, you can get intimate with your fellow human beings over ping-pong, bingo, running, singing, board games, life drawing, morning dance, acroyoga, backgammon or just by lounging on one of the funky sofas, sending out ‘talk to me’ vibes.
Fællesspisning happens every evening at 6pm. An hour before, a small crowd loiters outside the church, beginning to arrange itself into a queue. When dinner is frequently is sold out, it’s prudent to be early! When you get inside, you’re led to a seat by the host. There’s not a seating plan as such, but the host’s job is to place people optimally for conversation. If you arrive on your own, for example, you might get seated next to people he knows to be friendly, or with others who have also come alone.
Vegetarian nights are on Monday and Wednesday and then there’s Friday Night Delight which includes a two-course meal and live music. When the weather's good, the tables are moved outside to the grassy strip through the centre of Sønder Boulevard. Tickets to Absalon’s fællesspisning can be purchased ahead online, or bought at the door if there’s space.
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Kafa X is a community kitchen that holds fællesspisning every Tuesday evening at 7pm. The food is vegan (sometimes vegetarian) and most of the ingredients are things that would usually go to waste—donated by local grocery stores and bakeries in the area at the end of the day and collected by volunteers.
It’s the cheapest in the city at just 20 kr. per person, and if you come early to help with the cooking or cleaning, you can eat for free. Diners serve themselves buffet-style and after the meal, everyone is expected to wash their dishes. BYOB is encouraged.
Send Flere Kydderier is primarily located in Nørrebrohallen and their café is open daily for breakfast, lunch and dinner. On Tuesday and Thursday evenings, they hold fællesspisning between 5pm and 8pm. The food is always different, as the organisation is run by women from all sorts of cultural and culinary backgrounds. One day you might be eating marrocan, the next lebanese, the next korean, and so on.
The name, "Send More Spices" is inspired by the women who migrated to Denmark in the 80s and 90s who would always ask their families to send more spices to Denmark. And it's in this spirit that the organisation was founded in 2013, for and by ethnic minority women—who are often overlooked in the Danish labour market. They created a place where women can work and share their native cuisine with Copenhageners.
Gonzo is a cosy little café on a cosy little street and it hosts fællesspisning on Monday evenings, with different themes each time (check their Facebook events for information about the next one). All the tables in the café are joined together, so you’ll no doubt find yourself in conversation with some fellow fællesspisers. You can show up between 5:30pm and 8pm, but it’s wise to come early as the space is small and popular!
The café itself doesn’t serve a particular genre of cuisine other than comfort food, often vegetarian. Their focus is more on creating a space for people—young and old, local and foreign—to come together.
Kapelvej 44, or K44, is a public culture house in Nørrebro where all sorts of initiatives and events are going on—primarily organised by young people. As well as fællesspisning, you can also go to hip-hop, salsa or capoeira, or start your own club up.
Every Tuesday from 5pm until the food runs out, K44 holds fællesspisning (or “folkekøkken”). There’s a new menu every week, with two options: vegetarian or meat. Often, the dinner is coupled with another initiative from the culture house, so you might get to see a mini concert or a talk about a new local initiative, as you eat.
KU.BE is located in Frederiksberg, not far from Frederiksberg Gardens. It’s a culture centre offering all kinds of activities—yoga, parkour, art exhibitions, concerts, climbing, shared office space and more.
Wednesday is KU.BE’s fællesspisning day, and it happens at 5:30pm. The café tables are moved into long rows and there’s always a vegetarian option and a good atmosphere. The exercise facilities also stay open longer on Wednesday night, so you can go climbing before or after your meal.
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ENIGMA is as a museum of communication, a functional post office, and a very design-y gift shop and a canteen. They also hold interesting events, workshops and other things related to historical and modern communication.
Every Thursday, they stay open late, move all the tables together, and the Meyers-driven canteen serves dinner. There’s one thing on the menu (you can check it in advance on their website). Show up between 5pm and 8pm and enjoy dinner together with others in the beautiful building.
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Ishtar is also known as “The Ethnic Red Stockings” (The Red Stocking Movement was a Danish women's rights movement that was big in the 70s and 80s) and it is similar to Send Flere Kryderrier (see above). It is a non-for-profit project for Middle Eastern women who want to bring the cuisine they learned from their parents and grandparents to Denmark.
They have a catering business, a shop and they hold cookery workshops too. On Wednesday evenings at 5pm, they open their kitchen up to the public and host fællesspisning. The menu is usually a mix of Middle Eastern dishes, served family-style. There’s always a vegan option.
KraftWerket is a cultural centre located in Valby. It’s a project space and a sort of “embassy” for young cultural entrepreneurs, acting as a middleman between the council and the local young people. There are exhibitions, concerts, political movements and plenty more springing up here. The space is run democratically, so it’s those who use the space who decide what happens in it—one of those things being fællesspisning.
At 25 kr. per plate, their fællesspisning is also one of the cheapest in the city. Everything is 100% vegan and they also have a bar in the cellar (“Undererket”) where you can buy soft drinks and alcohol. The bar is open 24/7! It happens every Tuesday at 6pm If you’re planning to attend, it’s recommended to sign up on Facebook to the event, so the kitchen knows how much food to make. Also, remember to bring cash! Last time I checked, they don’t accept card or MobilePay.
Another cheap one! Ungdomshuset’s fællesspisning costs only 25 kr. per person and it happens every Thursday evening at 7pm. Also cash only. The food is vegan, and generously portioned (you won’t go hungry!) They always welcome volunteers to help in the kitchen, so if you have a bit of extra time on your hands, you can also turn up at 3:30pm.
Undomshuset is similar to Kapelvej 44 in that the projects that happen in the house are run by “activists” who use the house, and anyone is welcome to pitch a project at one of their Monday meetings. You can find more information about the house in English on their website.
There are often family-style, long table, fællesspisning events hosted by different chefs and venues around Copenhagen. Keep an eye on Copenhagen Cooking, Rødder & Vin, Mikkel Karstad, Foodoir, ØsterGRO, Rub & Stub and restaurant 108, amongst others.
If you live in Copenhagen, I’d also recommend becoming a member of Københavns Fødevarefællesskab—a voluntary initiative to deliver the best organic produce from local farmers directly to the consumers, with no packaging or middle-man fees. Most districts (the organisation has localised spots in the different districts in Copenhagen) hold fællesspisning for the members once a month, costing only 25 kr. per head.