Meet bisexual Michelle

It’s Thursday when we meet the young woman Michelle in central Copenhagen. She arrives with a dark backpack on her back and a wide smile on her face. Copenhagen has been her hometown since 2006 and to her, there is no doubt that Copenhagen is where she belongs.
Wednesday, November 20, 2013

”I love that Copenhagen is so rich on cultural offers,” says 27-year-old Michelle, who has lived in Copenhagen the majority of her life. For a number of years she lived outside the city, but the young student always finds her way back to Denmark’s charming capital. “I wouldn’t have it any other way”.

Michelle identifies as bisexual, which has greatly influenced her choice of residence. “Copenhagen’s LGBT community has definitely made the city more appealing and intriguing to me personally,” Michelle explains. “There are many different networks and cosy places where you can meet all sorts of people”.

A foot in both camps

Due to her bisexuality, Michelle feels as though she has a foot in both camps and she enjoys both the gay and the heterosexual life in Copenhagen. However, it is her opinion that bisexual people quickly become invisible in both environments. “It is so easy for me to just blend in. Especially because I do not flaunt my sexuality to new people”.

It is Michelle’s experience that bisexuals in general, not just in Copenhagen, are perceived as confused and promiscuous; a perception which Michelle despises. “I’m not confused. I can be attracted to and fall in love with a person regardless of their gender,” Michelle says firmly, adding that her sexuality does not automatically mean that there is a lot of “action” in her love life.

It is important to Michelle that she disproves the prejudices and hopefully it will normalize bisexuality. “You can have a totally normal life even though you have a different sexual preference than straight”.

Public display of affection

Even though Michelle has never had a serious girlfriend, it is still her impression that you can express your love in Copenhagen no matter the gender of your partner.

”It feels so natural to walk hand in hand with someone you love. I think everyone who has ever been in love can relate to that,” says Michelle. Therefor she always makes sure to send approving smiles to same sex couples holding hands in the streets of Copenhagen. “I just think it’s beautiful”.

”A while ago I kissed a girl goodbye in Frederiksberg and I really did not think it was a big deal,” Michelle says with a crooked smile. It is important to her that one can always express your love in public if one feels the desire to.

A creative environment

Michelle does not see herself as a party animal, but she enjoys to meet up with friends for a cup of coffee or a cold beer. Oftentimes she ends up at Café Oscar where she frequently runs into familiar faces. “That is one of the things I like about the LGBT community in Copenhagen. That you often randomly meet people you know”.

She also speaks highly of Salon Indigo, which is a monthly event at the lesbian bar Vela in vibrant Vesterbro. Here Michelle, among others, gets the opportunity to be enlightened through speeches, or she can discuss certain topics like rainbow families, queer art, gender expression and much more.

Warehouse 9 in the Meatpacking District is also one of Michelle’s LGBT favourites. “It is a cool, open and very artistic environment where there is room for everyone,” Michelle explains. All year round Warehouse 9 hosts various events; from live music to debates, film and parties. 

Urban city with green areas

Copenhagen’s wide selection of cultural offers is not the only thing that makes the city special according to Michelle. “Copenhagen is a very urban city, but at the same time there are so many green areas,” she says. “Here you can go to get some peace and quiet every once in a while”.

Michelle is particularly fond of the Copenhagen Lakes; a scenic walk that takes her all the way from Østerbro past Nørrebro and inner city to Vesterbro. From time to time she stops by the Botanical Garden, or she will make her way to Ørestad which offers both beautiful nature as well as stunning architecture.

More events for bisexuals

When we ask Michelle what Copenhagen is missing, she has to give it some thought. She expresses that the city generally has a lot to offer to different groups of people, however, bisexual people is a minority that is often overlooked. “There ought to be more established places where lesbians and bisexual women can meet each other,” she explains.

Michelle is not certain that an established bar for bisexuals only is a realistic solution. She points out Copenhagen’s many gay bars that are dominating the LGBT nightlife and suggests that one of these places could dedicate a night for bisexuals every once in a while. “That way it would be easier to meet ‘the invisible bis’”.

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